Comments on: Adaptation & A Working Relationship with the Indian Parents http://neokalypso.wordpress.com/2009/01/18/adaptation-a-working-relationship-with-the-indian-parents/ ...sweet adventures in my Indian/American relationship. Sat, 28 Nov 2009 02:14:20 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Pardesi Gori http://neokalypso.wordpress.com/2009/01/18/adaptation-a-working-relationship-with-the-indian-parents/#comment-692 Pardesi Gori Thu, 05 Feb 2009 01:34:32 +0000 http://neokalypso.wordpress.com/?p=169#comment-692 I keep hearing about flowers substituting kissing and intimacy in Indian movies but I've never seen that. All the Indian movies I have seen show frontal kissing now and the older ones show kissing from the backs of the kissers' heads. Can you give me some titles of movies with flower substitutes in them? I keep hearing about flowers substituting kissing and intimacy in Indian movies but I’ve never seen that. All the Indian movies I have seen show frontal kissing now and the older ones show kissing from the backs of the kissers’ heads.

Can you give me some titles of movies with flower substitutes in them?

]]> By: 6mile http://neokalypso.wordpress.com/2009/01/18/adaptation-a-working-relationship-with-the-indian-parents/#comment-691 6mile Thu, 05 Feb 2009 01:06:33 +0000 http://neokalypso.wordpress.com/?p=169#comment-691 His parents have been living in the US for quiet a while and I agree they should assimilate American culture, but that's not how it works in the real world ;) I think the best way to go is a little a time. That seems to work, haha. Indians are not very PDA friendly,just the way we are raised. Even Kissing scenes in Indian movies have, two flowers communion out of nowhere :P His parents have been living in the US for quiet a while and I agree they should assimilate American culture, but that’s not how it works in the real world ;)

I think the best way to go is a little a time. That seems to work, haha.

Indians are not very PDA friendly,just the way we are raised. Even Kissing scenes in Indian movies have, two flowers communion out of nowhere :P

]]> By: Pardesi Gori http://neokalypso.wordpress.com/2009/01/18/adaptation-a-working-relationship-with-the-indian-parents/#comment-673 Pardesi Gori Sun, 01 Feb 2009 07:05:44 +0000 http://neokalypso.wordpress.com/?p=169#comment-673 I'm not Indian but after so many years of living in India, even I am uncomfortable with showing PDAs with anyone, desi or not, in the USA of all places! However, if I had an Indian boyfriend I think I would display them in front of his parents - just to make a point. I’m not Indian but after so many years of living in India, even I am uncomfortable with showing PDAs with anyone, desi or not, in the USA of all places!

However, if I had an Indian boyfriend I think I would display them in front of his parents – just to make a point.

]]> By: CaliforniaTransplant http://neokalypso.wordpress.com/2009/01/18/adaptation-a-working-relationship-with-the-indian-parents/#comment-672 CaliforniaTransplant Fri, 30 Jan 2009 18:54:18 +0000 http://neokalypso.wordpress.com/?p=169#comment-672 I'm late in saying this, but I'm glad things are going well for you and that you've found a sense of peace and contentment! And I am looking forward to the post about that awesome stand up guy R! :) I’m late in saying this, but I’m glad things are going well for you and that you’ve found a sense of peace and contentment! And I am looking forward to the post about that awesome stand up guy R! :)

]]> By: NeoKalypso http://neokalypso.wordpress.com/2009/01/18/adaptation-a-working-relationship-with-the-indian-parents/#comment-660 NeoKalypso Fri, 23 Jan 2009 17:16:24 +0000 http://neokalypso.wordpress.com/?p=169#comment-660 He certainly does! He's such a stand up guy. I don't know how he puts up with me sometimes. He could probably write a blog exclusively on "Dealing with NK" alone! He certainly does! He’s such a stand up guy. I don’t know how he puts up with me sometimes. He could probably write a blog exclusively on “Dealing with NK” alone!

]]> By: Minnesotameetskarnataka http://neokalypso.wordpress.com/2009/01/18/adaptation-a-working-relationship-with-the-indian-parents/#comment-659 Minnesotameetskarnataka Fri, 23 Jan 2009 16:58:36 +0000 http://neokalypso.wordpress.com/?p=169#comment-659 Congrats on the new peace in your relationships! R definitely should get his own post! Congrats on the new peace in your relationships!

R definitely should get his own post!

]]> By: Gori Girl http://neokalypso.wordpress.com/2009/01/18/adaptation-a-working-relationship-with-the-indian-parents/#comment-658 Gori Girl Tue, 20 Jan 2009 20:57:15 +0000 http://neokalypso.wordpress.com/?p=169#comment-658 I think it's great that you've come (are coming?) to terms with R's family. I'm not sure if this has come through on my posts much, but I'm very much in the "do my own thing and not care what others think" group, and Aditya is too. In fact, Aditya ribs me on it from time to time, because I don't care so much that it can rub people the wrong way. I guess my parents did a good job installing a sense of self in me! ;-) If you're comfortable with where you are with R, and he's comfortable with the relationship between you and his parents, then I think things are going along pretty well, even if his parents aren't as welcoming as you had hoped. I think it’s great that you’ve come (are coming?) to terms with R’s family. I’m not sure if this has come through on my posts much, but I’m very much in the “do my own thing and not care what others think” group, and Aditya is too. In fact, Aditya ribs me on it from time to time, because I don’t care so much that it can rub people the wrong way. I guess my parents did a good job installing a sense of self in me! ;-) If you’re comfortable with where you are with R, and he’s comfortable with the relationship between you and his parents, then I think things are going along pretty well, even if his parents aren’t as welcoming as you had hoped.

]]> By: Jessica http://neokalypso.wordpress.com/2009/01/18/adaptation-a-working-relationship-with-the-indian-parents/#comment-657 Jessica Tue, 20 Jan 2009 17:13:35 +0000 http://neokalypso.wordpress.com/?p=169#comment-657 Oh and one more thing... "it’s basically their lack of understanding Western style relationships that kind of gnaws at me. But hey, every few months, I can handle that for my prince. And, they will have to tolerate seeing their son hold my hand and put his arm around me in the future too." We're still working on that in our relationship...after 3 1/2 yrs of marriage...I actually think K is more uncomfortable with PDA in front of his parents than they are ! :) Oh and one more thing…

“it’s basically their lack of understanding Western style relationships that kind of gnaws at me. But hey, every few months, I can handle that for my prince. And, they will have to tolerate seeing their son hold my hand and put his arm around me in the future too.”

We’re still working on that in our relationship…after 3 1/2 yrs of marriage…I actually think K is more uncomfortable with PDA in front of his parents than they are ! :)

]]> By: Jessica http://neokalypso.wordpress.com/2009/01/18/adaptation-a-working-relationship-with-the-indian-parents/#comment-656 Jessica Tue, 20 Jan 2009 17:10:23 +0000 http://neokalypso.wordpress.com/?p=169#comment-656 It sounds like you're getting clearer on your own sense of boundaries, which is great. Kudos to you! Also, glad to know of their promising behavior towards you. They probably felt a mixture of sadness about missing you and some sense of relief to have a little "alone" time with their son. I think my Mom-Ji really loves it when she gets to go out alone with K, her son, and shop or go watch a Hindi movie together. Look forward to that post about your prince :) It sounds like you’re getting clearer on your own sense of boundaries, which is great. Kudos to you! Also, glad to know of their promising behavior towards you. They probably felt a mixture of sadness about missing you and some sense of relief to have a little “alone” time with their son. I think my Mom-Ji really loves it when she gets to go out alone with K, her son, and shop or go watch a Hindi movie together.

Look forward to that post about your prince :)

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