Hi! It’s been a while.
I felt inspired to write after a certain, mind-blowing concert R got me front row tickets to: Leonard Cohen. The dude is 74 and rocking it more than ever.
Cohen is perhaps one of the greatest lyricists of our time. You can read some great concert reviews by much better authors than myself, so I’ll just write a bit about how Leonard Cohen has affected me.
It’s funny that I’m reading the book “The Girls of Ames” around the time of the concert. While the book is a nice, sweet read about lifelong girlfriends, it has acutely reminded me of my kind of loner, hanging out on the fringe ways in high school and in some ways still today. These girls told stories of their first kisses, dresses, and dances. It’s fun to read, but I can’t say I experienced much of that.
One of the best things I discovered in high school was Leonard Cohen’s music. While all those perfectly natural coming-of-age things were going on around me, I was cocooned inside my room littered with art, various colors of Christmas tree lights, and incense listening to Cohen’s words and deep, drowning voice. He really spoke to me. I memorized his words, his poems and at different times in my life they have resurfaced and have fit into my life in surprising ways.
I was into art a lot back then. My favorite class was art and my teacher would let me listen to my headphones while I went at my own pieces in the back of the classroon. He didn’t let everyone do this but I remember the sheer joy and loss of time I experienced as I made art.
I remember him saying I should really apply for an art scholarship, but I declined saying that my current profession was a much more practical option.
For me, there was no half-assing art. It was something I would get lost, consumed in or it was nothing at all. So I sort of gave it up and now only dabble in it here and there when I have a large chunk of time to burn.
And so, being engulfed in art feels dangerous now. Like Cohen. You can’t have-ass it. You have to surrender to it, be it, entirely and completely.
They don’t call ‘em crazy artists for nothing.
So I ended up taking a more stable road. Cohen reminds me of those passionate, dreamy, and intense times though. Despite his admission to taking several drugs for anxiety and depression, he reminds me that thoughts, ideas, and art can sustain one for 74 years.
At the end of the concert, R told me to get up to the stage to shake Leonard’s hand. I made it and when Leonard paused for a handshake I said, “You’re amazing!” He smiled the smile not of a crazy artist but a serene old man. It was a thrill.
Thanks for one of the most memorable nights of my life, R.
May 18, 2009 at 7:09 pm
Yay for more posting – even if it’s not an interest I share.
We’ll be headed to Indy in a couple of weeks for a wedding, but I don’t think we’ll make it up to Chicago, since we’re only there for the weekend.
May 18, 2009 at 8:45 pm
Bummer… you, me, and CT could have all hung out!
I may have some more posts of interest for you coming up…haven’t seen R’s parents in months and they are in town this weekend!!!
May 23, 2009 at 6:26 pm
Yeah! someone posted LOl.. I simply haven’t had much to write about, so I haven’t done so. Too much med stuff, but I did have a date last Saturday night… it was fantastic too. I didn’t know there were still men that would open doors for women out there LOL.. so I am officially dating this guy LOL.. and he was born in Pakistan, but lived here for like 11 years.. went to high school here, so pretty Americanized. For some reason NK, I seem to have a thing for men with brown skin LOL
June 1, 2009 at 5:31 am
Oh my gosh!! Where have you guys been!! Like most of you, I came accross this site googling Americans dating a Indian guys! I am so captivated by an Indian guy I work with-A, he is amazing!! He has totally swept me off my feet. I guess it’s been about 3 months now.. he is 28, I am 25. He’s amazing, and the connection we have is unbelievable. Anyway.. to the complications.. HIS PARENTS!!! Haha after reading these posts, I’m sure you knew that was coming. We just happened to start seeing each other the month before his parents came in for their very first visit to America. He has been quite busy visiting with him and I have take a slight backburner for a little bit, which is totally fine with me. I mean, it’s his parents, and he needs to spend as much time with them while they are here. Being the ignorant Westerner, I didn’t realize.. well actually until I read these posts that it’s a HUGE deal to meet the parents. I did meet them, but was introduced as a friend. Which seemed really strange to me, but I was totally fine with not telling them. He hasn’t met my parents yet though, but that’s because of ANOTHER complication. Oh how lovely this story is about to get. I hope you are ready for some new juicy topics to talk about on here, cause I plan to be a new frequent visitor!! I’m going through a divorce and I have a child. A is absolutely wonderful with my son, I mean when we are all together D, my son, actually ignores me to spend time with A playing.. which is different from anyone else, he is usually ver attached to ME. So anyhow.. I guess I’m not only Western, but branded by marriage, and sooon to be divorce.. so his parents and so I hear ALL of India will have a big problem with our relationship. The waiting part was totally fine with me, but this somthing terrible happened. A has an I-phone, and we text constantly since his parents are here it’s our main communciation source outside of work. The other day his mom accidently pushed the message button on the phone while talking to someone in India. And that’s when it happened.. floods of texts hit the screen between A and I. Some of those were very personal and very PRIVATE. **Blushes**
Somehow.. A managed to make up a million lies to cover all of the conversations she read. I don’t know how he managed to do this, but he swears she believes we are just friends. Which is great… since beforehand she was swearing to stay here until he flew back to India with her because he was dating me!!!!!!! OMG!!! As a Westerner that seemed totally nuts to me, but then I am adapting to their differences so I’m not completely surprized. Anyway, I’m so sad now because we really can’t even text anymore or talk outside of work. Ma is only gonna be here about 14 more days, so I’m sure I can suffer threw it.. somehow. Finding this site may actually help me tremendously actually.
So what are your thoughts? Please help me understand this not telling parents thing as much as possible. I am fine with it totally actually, since I’m going through a divorce a level of not secrecy so much but “disgression” is fine by me. We also have to be somewhat careful at work, but most people are starting to get the hint anyway. He says he is worried about the Indians here telling Ma but once she goes back to India he doesn’t care who knows.
Ahhh he is amazing, do you think they will ever accept me though? Especially now after reading the things we have. He is Jain, so they are very conservative. I’m his first real girlfriend. Even if no one responds.. thanks for letting me have a space to get all this out to anyone who might understand. This is far beyond the realm of dating an American guy!!!!
May 26, 2009 at 4:13 am
Maybe I just like Milano cookies too much hehehe