I started this blog as a general place to play with relationships and ideas. As my own reationship has become more nuanced, complex, and really wonderful I thought I’d write about what my guy and I have went through to make it work.
Specifically, he’s pretty Indian, I’ve discovered I’m pretty American, and far beyond both of these things, we are two unique snowflakes who are quite in love. Mostly, I wish to cover the intercultural aspects we work through together as it has been a shared experience of many visitors here. However, I hope I also convey our bond beyond borders and how we seek to make it stick in both our worlds.
And what is “The Milano?!” you ask. That is the first nickname R (my guy) and I used for our intercultural relationship…him being brown and me being white. You know, like the Milano cookie? Ever since we have expressed a certain curiousity towards other “milanos” and even feel a distance sense of solidarity with them (even if we don’t know them). For all those other milanos out there…you know what I mean.
Hope you enjoy reading my stories as much as I do making them.
February 15, 2008 at 12:47 am
Thank You
. I’m vinay. Experiencing new things is always fun, the trouble is when you dont get a change to go out.
I come from a traditionalist liberal andhra family, and I never ever imagined even a few years ago I would willingly immigrate, but over the years I’ve grown more and more disgruntled with the way things are , I can tell you about it , but you’d probably get bored
Hope you and your boy have a wonderful valentine
, has he ever told you about kamadva 
…the ever own indian cupid.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kamadeva
February 15, 2008 at 11:30 pm
I’ve traveled europe as a kid,with my parents,, all i have is pics, maybe faint memories. India has over a billion people, many graduates dont have jobs even
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I shall find that book and read it. You sound like a really strong and outgoing person.
January 15, 2009 at 9:24 pm
I love you are using the Milano cookies as a symbol!
I call them black and white cookies though… but my boyfriend and I love to share them every once in a while. A great symbol for Intercultural relationships! 
July 2, 2009 at 4:12 pm
Hi! I typed in “Indian and American romantic relationship” into google, and your site was one of the first to pop up. I too am dating an Indian guy. He has only been here for 5 years. His family all live back in India, so meeting his family isn’t really a problem yet. LoL. Can you give me some things to think about when being in an intercultural relationship? Ours is relatively new (we’ve only known each other for 9 months or so). Or anyone reading this, I would love comments. shortshan1987@yahoo.com Thanks so much!
July 2, 2009 at 4:14 pm
Hi Shannon! I think you should start at http://www.gorigirl.com. My friend over there runs probably the most comprehensive and informative website on this topic (and I’ve looked around for a while). See ya over there!
July 26, 2009 at 10:21 am
I love the Milano! My husband and I refer to ourselves as zebras, and we too feel a certain bond when we see other zebras! Thrilled to have found your site!